Monday, October 16, 2006

I know I'm probably preachin' to the choir

I'm down on gender roles (mostly).

My exeptions are:
Men should propose marriage.
Men should have manners when it comes to women, like attempting to open doors and paying for dinner dates.
Women look bad with a shaved head, and men shouldn't shave their legs.
Men look silly in dresses.
A man should give up his seat for a woman.

And that's where it ends. I think men and women should cook, either can stay at home with the kids, either can fight in the military, be president, build a skyscraper, be a hairstylist, lift heavy objects, whatever!
We're all human beings.

With that said, I don't believe in girls and boys toys.

Girls can play with cars and boys can play with dolls. It's not gonna make them gay (even dr. phil said so).
I never thought about it because my mom, good ol' G-money, bought me matchbox cars and He-Man and microscope sets. I had dolls too and ponies. But kids should be able to play and learn with any toy they want.
In one of my philosophy classes in college, the professor told a story of a friend of hers who's little girl wanted the hot wheels toy in the happy meal. Without asking the person taking her order put a barbie happy meal on her tray.
The mom said "could I have the other kind for her?"
"But this is a girl's meal, she's a girl."
"Fine," holding her little girl in her arms "she's a boy."

I'm not implyng that's a completely outrageous story. But I think of that when I go to the toy section and they are laid out in boy's and girl's toys. Can't we squish them together? Maybe little Johnny wants a Dora the Explorer doll and maybe Sally wants a GI-Joe?

It might be a stretch, but if we encouraged nurturing qualities in boys and strength qualities in girls, might we have a better society? I like to believe so.

Power to the babies!

6 comments:

tricia said...

when jack was little they wer'nt dolls they were ACTION FIQURES.....

KAI said...

I wanted to get Kai a cute little girlie doll that laughed, but nooo... "Daddy" freaked out. So, Grandma bought him a boy dolly! I think men freak out more than women about "gender specific" toys.

~erin

ro said...

agreed. i got irritated at target the other day when i looked at these cool sleeping bags kits for kids. well there were two choices: extremely pink barbie princess OR very black and blue police/militant/firefighter. I was like, geesh can we not have a little middle ground. I wouldn't buy either for Scout. Loser toy maker people.

G$ said...

What can I say? You had a cool mom when you were growing up; you just didn't realize how cool until now! No cookie-cutter kids for me! If you want to blow up your my little pony, then hey, it's the best of both worlds don't you think?

pkillur said...

I agree and disagree at the same time. I think there are things that are more weighted to be girls things and guy things. Personally, I would freak out more giving a little girl a toy gun than a little boy. And, yes, I would freak out giving my sons a polly pocket. Maybe it's a guy thing, I don't know. I know of a lot of little kids who seem to be OK, although I will say they tend to be a bit more effeminate than other kids (which depending on who you are may be a good or bad thing). But, overall, I'm kinda OK with having boys toys be boy toys and girl toys be girl toys.

Boys and Girls are different - I assure you of this. Just wait about 2 and a half years until you have two toddlers, I think you'll agree with me. At least a little bit more :)

Also - Toys-r-us has a way better selection of sleeping bags than target does if you've got one in your town Ro.

pkillur said...

I agree and disagree at the same time. I think there are things that are more weighted to be girls things and guy things. Personally, I would freak out more giving a little girl a toy gun than a little boy. And, yes, I would freak out giving my sons a polly pocket. Maybe it's a guy thing, I don't know. I know of a lot of little kids who seem to be OK, although I will say they tend to be a bit more effeminate than other kids (which depending on who you are may be a good or bad thing). But, overall, I'm kinda OK with having boys toys be boy toys and girl toys be girl toys.

Boys and Girls are different - I assure you of this. Just wait about 2 and a half years until you have two toddlers, I think you'll agree with me. At least a little bit more :)

Also - Toys-r-us has a way better selection of sleeping bags than target does if you've got one in your town Ro.